We in the Johnston house have had some run ins with a teething baby. Our tiny disciple wants to be held, caudled, and snuggled to sleep during the day. We want to give her what she wants, but we also want clean clothes, clean dishes, and fresh food to eat. We also have had errands to run, things to be done, and a job that has to be worked because there are only so many paid days off in a year, all while keeping our girl happy. Oh yes, and trying to sleep ourselves. Needless to say it has been overwhelming.
(Before you hit me with a “babies don’t keep” or “this won’t last forever” hang on, and keep reading.)
Do you ever have just one of those days? You know when we feel like we are having the utmost worst days of our lives and there is just nothing we think could make us feel better. I mean everything goes wrong, and we just are so overwhelmed we finally burst over something that really isn’t that important, like a slow coffee pot. Or a loved one that hasn’t done anything wrong and just wants a hug. No confessing here, you know, just trying to help up understand.
You didn't get enough sleep, baby or puppy didn’t sleep, or you just did not have enough coffee and you are just ready to rip everybody’s face off. You have a toddler in the home that is always on the go, and you are constantly running around. You wake up and its horrible weather, and you had a day full of outside plans and now everybody is confined to the walls of your house. Maybe you don’t have a babe, but you got into a fight with somebody first thing in the morning. You forgot your school stuff at home. Your schedule is booked, your day is ruined, and there just isn’t enough caffeine in the world to keep you alive today.
You know, just one of those days. Ever had one?
Don’t know where to look or what to do to feel better.
Maybe its just me, but often I feel like we look to the wrong things for encouragement, or to simmer our tempers and heated mouths. More coffee, MTV marathons, snacks, or whatever yours may be. As much as I’d like to say that every time I get upset, I pray and pull out my Bible first. Sorry, Pastor’s wife fail (ha!). That just doesn’t happen every single time. Sometimes, a girl can just feel so overwhelmed she can’t think straight.
This may be me just counseling to myself here, and thinking out loud as we go, but maybe you can get some encouragement from it as well. Here are some things I need to try and remember as I go, knee deep in the trenches of what feels like a never-ending streak of drowning in my bad days.
1.Remember all of the things we are encountering all have a purpose and a hidden message.
Try and look for the lesson in the day, or the thing you might can learn from the situation. Take a minute to look past the surface and dig a little deeper. Not saying you will always be able to figure it out in the moment, but you can at least cling to the truth that it has a purpose.
2. "When the dog bites, When the bee stings, When I'm feeling sad, I simply remember my favorite things, And then I don't feel so bad” Whatever it may be, whatever brings you joy, or puts a smile on your face, remember them; just like the song says.
Sometimes, it is the smallest of things that can bring you the greatest joy. Maybe you can become a bit of a grumpy gills, think of, or surround yourself with some of your favorite things; friends, flowers, your favorite worship song, chocolate, or a dang good plate of french fries and a big ole milk shake.
3. Pray about it, and be thankful for every trial and tribulations.
Even if it is hard to be thankful for the things, and hard to see in the moment, they all have a purpose. Some of the worst things that have happened to me have actually been some of the best things to happen. Pray for guidance with thankful, trusting hearts.
4. Romans 15: 2-3a “We should help others do what is right and build them up in the Lord. 3 For even Christ didn't live to please himself.”
If there is just nothing you can do to make yourself feel better, make somebody else feel better.
If you are looking for encouragement, encourage somebody else.
If you are looking for a compliment, compliment somebody else.
If you are having a bad day, try and make somebody else's day. It may be just what you need to break yourself free from your frustrations.
Let’s agree to find common ground here. Our days may look different, but we may be dealing with the same things. To agree to knowing what we should do during these times, but not always remembering to do them. To agree to let somebody close to us in on our struggles, and allow them to speak some truth into our lives. Maybe even just share these things and allow them to remind you of them.
Be encouraged by knowing you are not alone, and this too shall pass.